Everyone has OPINIONS. But some people’s blogs have become nothing but opinion after strident opinion on everything, ad nauseam, until you wonder about the poor people who actually have to hear them talking in person all day long. At least I can click off the page…

Your blog, you place for your opinions. I get that. Really, I do. But to have an opinion on every single thing you happen upon gets really, really, really tiring. And insulting. Almost like I’m being lectured to and there’s nothing more I dislike than being lectured to. I already have a mother for that, thank you.

I know the romance community, or any of the writing community, isn’t perfect, but I’m really tired of listening to all the backbiting going on in writers’ blogs specifically. Many people want to air all the ‘issues.’ I don’t know just how helpful that’s going to be. Because, here’s the thing…

Everyone’s entitled to their opinion. And, if you have one and you feel strongly enough about it to actually voice it, I hope you throw it into the ring because you truly believe it, and not because you want to stir the pot and play devil’s advocate just for the sake of doing so. I hope you state it clearly, give examples and try not to sound arrogant as all get out about every single thing you post. I hope you don’t become the blogger who cried wolf, because then I can’t tell what’s really important to you since every single thing seems to rifle you to the point of indignation. Some of the best, thoughful posts that stir people up are ‘innocent’ ones – people who state their honest opinions in a completely non-insulting way and create a flow and exchange of ideas that actually helps something.

Anyone can create controversy and throw out an opinion they know will piss people off, but when done on a daily basis, it becomes sickening. And transparent. Do you need the stats that badly?

I don’t get it. I’m finding myself more and more, like Sylvia, sticking close to home. The people on my sidebar are the blogs I visit on a daily basis because they don’t rant every single day, because they’re thoughtful with their opinions and honest with themselves. (And yes, I have more I’m going to add, because I’ve discovered new ones that make me happy when I read them. Happy does not always equal ‘not thinking.’) I visit them because, first and foremost, they’re writers and they blog about the writing they’re doing, and I find that inspiring. That’s what I’m looking for – inspiration, craft, a few laughs, and the occasional, blow- off steam rant.

I’m all for whining too – I do plenty of that myself. And I never professed to have the answers to world peace or the writing community here – it’s not what I’m all about and never will be. And I don’t care. I’m very happy here.

So these days, I actually prefer going to blogs and reading about how many pages someone wrote or what’s going on in so and so’s family and yes, I like the publishing insights and I happen to find the ‘how I write’ posts very interesting. Because I’m a writer, first and foremost. I started my blog to talk about my writing, not to bitch and moan on other people’s parade, and not to denigrate every single thing I come across in the genre or pick it apart until it’s dead on the floor. The snaky shit’s just giving me an ulcer. You have opinions? Great – but don’t force-feed them to me every single day…tell me what YOU’RE doing to change things in your own writing life instead of insulting people and books and blah blah blah…

And then, every once in a while, your well-placed rant will actually make me smile.